Saturday, January 11, 2013

Happy New Year everyone!
My wish for you this new year is to be safe and to not allow domestic violence and abuse in your life and to have the good life you deserve!

So many of my W.I.S.H. women this past year moved on and now have a better life. It was not easy for them as so many things contributed to their steps to get out of their abusive relationship with their spouse, boyfriend, or partner, but they did it and I am so proud of them!

So many went on to go back to school and get their GED, or are now attending college classes to better themselves for their life and the life of their children. Many faced the unknown hardships but they are dedicated and determined to carry on and make a better life for themselves.

Some women have gone back to their abuser because they think they can change them, but they cannot. Some of those same women have been back in the system again, and this is understandable. Some of the women want to "fix" everything to make things better, but have come to the realization they can only fix themselves. The domestic violence and abuse is solely in the hands of the abuser.

Where does a woman go after being married for 25-50 years and has suffered abuse and violence against her for all of that time? I cannot tell you how difficult it is to change a life you are used to even it is not a loving relationships but one based on power and control over another human being?
But, it can be done!

There are so many programs today to help women get out of abusive and violent relationships before it is too late!

Then there is the "children" trap. So many of the women are so petrified they will lose their children in the never-ending battle an abuser is hell-bent on taking the kids away, even though he doesn't really want anything to do with the kids, but it is a way to "get even" with her!

It is time to take control of your life---before it is too late! Get out! Get help! Learn all you can about domestic violence and abuse and do not be a victim anymore, but a survivor! You can do it, I know you can!

Be safe!

Becky :)